I’m Not Blacking Myself Out!

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My response to women who tell me I’m supposed to partake in the nationwide Women’s Blackout Day

So you are supposed to black yourself out to silence yourself for an entire day and this is supposed to make us stronger?

This is supposed to bring awareness? This is to show men how much they would miss us or not get things done when we aren’t present? This is to show men just how much they need and depend on us? This is to show them that we matter too?

— oh the logic.

You think blacking yourself out and being silent for an entire day is going to actually do something?

Women are taking my negative comment about this “movement” and thinks it’s getting people engaged.

— people who talk about it negatively does mean that it’s working ?!

Who exactly started this? Why? What purpose is it supposed to serve?

It’s pretty hilarious that people think women “erasing” themselves for an entire day is a positive thing, like it’s going to positively move us women into the right direction.

Also, women blacked themselves out, yet online trying to defend or get people engaged about this movement.

  • The movement is for women to black themselves out and not be present, to be totally silent for an entire day. AND this is supposed to “teach” men a lesson just how crucial women are to making the world go round.

Instead, the movement should have a women positivity frame that we can add our photo to, have a woman centered motto/mantra on it. And ask women to share WHY they are just as important as males are.

— NOW that is an actual movement to actually part take in!!

But silencing women to “teach” men a lesson??? ? so hard I’m ?.

So, no, I’m most definitely not partaking in this blackout movement. It’s not for me, and ladies, it should not be for you either!

Was this a man who invented this, just so women aren’t seen nor heard from for at least an entire day?

I won’t be silenced. I can no longer allow myself to be silenced!

As a survivor of abuse including rape from multiple people throughout my childhood, and the absolute need to be silent about it for years… why am I being told to be silent and black myself out, as if I don’t even exist! Even if it is just for one day.

  • I didn’t exist all those years unless it was for the benefit and satisfaction for someone else. If I wasn’t serving something to someone else, I didn’t matter, I wasn’t important, I wasn’t worthy of love, respect or being treated as a fellow human being.
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The Message That’s Being Mass Messaged To Women On FB

On September 30th, women blackout from 8:00 a.m. to 9:00 p.m. Its a movement to show what the world might be like without women.

Your profile photo should just be a black square so that men wonder where the women are. Be silent, when they don’t hear or see us, they will wonder what happened. Pass it only to women … It’s for a project against domestic abuse. It is no joke. Share it.

Stop Partaking In Movements That Aren’t Truly Serving The Cause

Erasing yourself so that men will experience what it’s like to live in a world without women won’t actually work!

Think about this logically and not follow something that doesn’t even make sense.

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As women, especially those who suffered abuse, comment below with some ideas for a positive, women-centered, self-loving motto or mantra that we can use instead. We should use it universally, together, United. Let’s put together an actual movement that encourages women to share their story, safely, with a positive impact.

  • To Show Men What It Will Be Like Without Women

That is the first part of the message. “To Show Men What It Will Be Like Without Women” . 

Making your profile photo all black will not show men what it would be like without women. 

Instead of basically erasing yourself, but only in photos, show the men that areall around you why you exist. Show them who you are, personally, professionally and everything in between. 

The next part is being silent – Why! Why are we to be silent? What exactly is that going to do? Men will absolutely love that. Them getting a break from hearing about how we are treated is not going to do anything positive for us. 

  • It’s a project againt domestic abuse

So now we are throwing in there a phrase that it’s supposed to be about domestic abuse awareness. 

So, which is it, so that men will know what it is like without us or is this about domestic abuse awareness? Becuase blacking ourselves out and being silent isn’t going to do either of those at all. 

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We Need To Teach Men From The Beginning

It is our job as a parent to teach and guide them. Will they abide by what we teach , guide and model for them 100%, probably not. However, it truly is up to us, espiecally moms to teach them from the moment they can walk and talk. 

>Raise our sons to respect us from day one, even if they don’t know us. Show them that women are their equals. Show them how both males and females can unite and be a team to work together on any project.  Teach them how to listen to women, read their non-verbal cues, how to respond to them and give them the respect they deserve, even if a woman doesn’t know how to respect herself, he should guide her!

Our sons need to watch, absorb and mimic what they learn from the adults all around them. They need to see women who are loved properly, all of the time, respected, honored and given the mutual opportunities as males do. 

When a small boy sees his mother getting used and abused by others, especially men, they will learn that is how it is supposed to be. 

I absolutely do not want to hear the excuse “What about women who don’t love, honor or respect themselves.” 

No person is given the right to treat another person with abuse, whether it be physically, emotionally, financially or mentally just because they aren’t doing it for themselves. They may not know how to do it, it is up to you and others around them to show them how to. 

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